I was going through some old emails to finish my book and came across a very important email about abuse towards men. I feel that the writer puts it perfectly.
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As to the topic of whether or not a man can be abused, some studies have suggested that in cases of physical violence, women hit men more often then the reverse. However, 1) These cases are vastly under reported, 2) the physical damage is usually less severe. Obviously, though, emotional scarring from that and from psychological abuse is still significant, and I can testify to the latter.
It would make sense to me to write a blog not about can a man be abused, because the question to me is similar to asking “Can a black man be president?” It implies an existing prejudice. Instead, I think the more valid question is, “How prevalent and how severe is abuse of men?” If you consider that child abuse is not that gender-specific, it would be unfortunate to believe that it is eliminated for one gender when that person reaches adulthood. The children get older, the abusers get older, and the patterns continue. In fact, while I was writing about a specific person, it was certainly not the first abusive female in my life; that’s been a pattern for me, one which I hope to change.
Since I don’t believe I’m in any physical danger from my ex, I don’t think there’s any harm in using my full name if you wish.
The following site was sent to me, a man’s story of being abused http://mencanbeabusedtoo.wordpress.com/my-story-part-1/