I often hear from parents concerned about the rage and anger in their children after living in an abusive home. I found this site to help men and boys. My hope is that it will help. A boy doesn’t have to live in abuse for this site to help.
The following is an excerpt taken from the site below:
Endabuse.org This web site is a comprehensive tool kit designed to help you work with men and boys to prevent gender-based violence. It provides readings, case studies, handouts, exercises, and other resources as well as community-building tools.
Esta Soler, President, Family Violence Prevention Fund
The Family Violence Prevention Fund began reaching out to boys and men several years ago, after commissioning research to help guide this work. The research taught us that most men want to help stop violence, but they either haven’t been asked or don’t know what to do. Through public education campaigns and grassroots organizing, we have been asking them to help and showing them ways to make a difference, in particular by teaching boys that violence is always wrong and by helping to change social norms.
Top 10 Reasons for Working with Men and Boys
1. Many women want men to step up and take a stand against violence.
2. Most men do not agree with men’s violence, yet do nothing to challenge or stop it – these men need to be mobilized to prevent violence.
3. Some men are already working to prevent violence but lack support; many more would like to get involved but don’t know how.
4. Men commit most of the violence – it is up to them to stop it
5. Men are not born violent-they become violent as a result of beliefs and norms about what it means to be a man. Work with men and boys can change these beliefs and norms and support men in rejecting violence
6. Men have the potential to stop violence. Not only can they choose to not perpetrate acts of violence, they can choose to challenge the attitudes and assumptions that support gender-based violence.
7. Gender-based violence continues despite years of antiviolence work. The missing piece is effective violence prevention work with men. (For statistics on violence in the United States, see Get the Facts.)
8. Men experience violence too-many are survivors but few get the support they need to heal from their experience. (See RAINN Statistics for data on men experiencing sexual assault.)
9. Men and boys listen to their peers-we need to mobilize men and boys to spread the violence prevention message in their families, workplaces, and communities.
10. Decision makers and opinion leaders are mostly men-we need to work with them to get the political, financial, and moral support necessary to prevent gender-based violence.