The following is a direct email that was sent to me. I felt that the readers here could help support this woman. I will call her Lady M. I have posted her email as well as my response. I have encouraged her to come to this link as we will support her the best that we can.
Message: i currently live with an abusive partner with my two daughters he does not physically hit me ever but emotionally financially mentally and verbally he does just recently he took the money out of the girls piggy bank for smokes he steals money from me and i can’t kick him out surveillance calls him each night to make sure that he’s home he does have curfew i tried to phone shelters here in the city where i live but there’s no room child and welfare are involved but are not taking the kids due to me going to meetings and its okay for him to miss meetings but not me they said that if i choose to leave they wont take the kids i tried since Saturday but there’s no where to go social assistance wont give me a bus ticket or child welfare to another shelter in a different city because hes not hitting me i get money in 2 days and i can already feel a argument coming on he looks on the facebook when I’m on there reading what i type and reads my mail even on the phone when m y mom or friends or social workers phones hes right there watching me he gets mad at my kids for the smallest things and when he does not get his own way he throws a temper tantrum and kicks the table and chairs and yells and swears around the house he stole money from my wallet a few days ago and hes just being nice right now because he thinks hes getting money from me on Thursday which i tell him no but he gets it anyways he had sex with me a few weeks ago when i was sleeping and when i woke up he was on top of me i never charged him because i couldn’t believe it he would go that low I’m the only one who cooks cleans and does the house hold chores around the house he doesn’t help with anything the guy is 42 years old and cant even cook his own meals the last time i left he starved himself for a month i cant take it any longer i want something different i don’t want to argue in front of the kids anymore i;m tried and worn out of taking care of his needs i need to be with my kids only when i phone to the shelters and tell them this they don’t believe me anymore it feels like I’m being judged like I’m gonna keep coming back when enough is enough
Dear Lady M,
It broke my heart to read your email. You are really between a rock and a hard spot. Is there any way to take the money you are getting and make a run for it? I wish that I had the money to get you where you need to get.
I would really like to recommend that you visit and write me via my website at http://www.the-laststraw.com, there is a great community of women there that are in your shoes today and can help support you. I have started a post with the email that you sent me. This is the best way to get support; I hope this is okay with you as I normally post most emails. Your real name is not used. If you wish to continue to write in the one locate for support click here…
Don’t worry about what others think, most abused men and women go back for many reasons. I went through what you are, I was finally free of him for weeks, then I went to take his son over so he could see him, the guilt from his family and he acted like he learned a lesson and had been living in his car, I let him move back in, the worst thing I could have done, my life was worse than ever because I had him live prior.
Even if he doesn’t hit you, you need to let the police and agencies know that you fear for your life, from your words you do. Can you take the money you are getting and buy the bus tickets you wanted? Is there any family that can help you? I am not sure what agencies you are calling so here is a link that lists quite a few: http://womenslaw.org/gethelp.php and http://womenslaw.org/
Keep in touch and let us know how we can be there for you. You are in my prayers tonight.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca J. Burns