Review for Silent Screams from the Hamptons
By Christa Jan Ryan
Men and Women that have been abused, myself included, benefit, heal and grow from reading stories of others that once walked in their shoes, yet were finally able to walk those shoes out the door, away from abuse and onto the life that they deserve.
I was honored when Christa sent me her Book, “Silent Screams from the Hamptons,” to read and review for you here. We all have a story deep within us that will benefit others and Christa was no different. I read the book in pretty much one sitting. She is very honest and tells of her abuse, alcoholism, several miscarriages and inner doubt very matter of factly. You can feel her grow throughout the book as she struggles with a horrific past, daily fear, caring for her children and all while running a successful business. Many of you will relate to her struggle with drugs and alcohol as we often find ways of numbing ourselves to a reality that is just too hard to face. Christa is very honest with her struggle with alcohol; as much as she denied it, she knew she would eventually have to face this issue first and foremost before she could ever think of leaving her abusive life.
The biggest thing that I took from her wonderfully honest writing was how much we all deny what is happening. We swallow our gut feelings and try to survive another day, wishing that things would change while knowing deep down inside that they never will, if we don’t take action. Like you and I she minimized the first signs of abuse, soon for Christa, denial became a way of life.
Christa began to see the devastation in her children’s eyes and could no longer justify what was happening. Funny how we can take horrific abuse, but when we are finally able to see through the fog and honestly see the toll it is taking on our innocent children, we are ready to stop the denial and reach out for help.
Christa’s courage and strength is sure to inspire you. Sadly I know that many of you will see yourselves in this book. No matter where we live or how much money we have, men and woman that are abused or live with a volatile person have the same story to tell. Christa had a fulfilling career that generated a good income for her and her children, but this in no way meant it was easy for her. I too worked full time, but leaving your abuser, pulling up the stakes, taking the children and the furniture is more difficult that many think.
Take inspiration from what this strong woman went through, and most importantly, what she overcame for you can do it too. The rest of your life has not yet been written, move beyond the feeling that this is, “your destiny,” as Christa and I both have. When I finally realized, as Christa did, I would rather die trying to leave than to stay and die a little bit more each day.
The road ahead is not guaranteed to be without pain and doubt, but at least the rest of your life will not be walked on eggshells. You can overcome the past and abuse, but only if you leave. Remember, we show others how to treat us, show the world and most importantly yourself, that you deserve respect and dignity, demand this at all times, and the rest will follow.
I encourage you to read Silent Screams from the Hamptons, be sure to come back and let everyone here know what you thought. To purchase the book or read the first chapter, visit www.christajanryan.net
Love & Peace,