Calling all bloggers, looking for great resources so share online. Do you have a blog or know of a great blog, or website resource to help anyone in the aftermath of abuse? I am looking for the sites that you have found to help support you or others in the aftermath from all forms of abuse ranging from child abuse, domestic violence, verbal abuse, rape, drug addiction, PTSD and the road to recovery I would like you to share.
Please post the blog or website name and link below for others to easily find, I encourage you to write a paragraph of why you wish to share this specific site. Due to the large amount of responses on this blog I may not get a chance to thank each of you for sharing, but once the site is verified as legitimate your comment will be approved to share with others. Don’t stop at just a site, feel free to list books you have read and others things to support others.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
I am a writer, dreamer and true believer that you change your life by changing your focus. My passion is helping those who never thought of setting goals to realize that by doing so, there is a dream inside them yearning to be discovered. With almost 50 years of life experience, 20 + years creative writing, marketing, coaching and goal setting, I live to inspire others to create the life of their dreams.
Dear Saba,
Bless you for all that you have endured, helping other woman will help you to heal. Share with others your journey and how you were finally able to get the strength to leave, mostly what are you doing now, that is the hardest part, the aftermath.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Dear Evie,
Sorry to take so long to respond, site issues. Congrats on the new blog, the support online is so much more than when I was looking for it. You will help so many others. I encourage others to visit blog. The site not showing so let me know if the address is correct.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Dear T,
I was concerned with your comment I am scared but looking forward to it too. Be careful, I hate to see you get back together and settle ever. You are the one that can decide what you future will be, I hope you stay focused on that. What a difficult situation to be in, I had heard it many times.
I know your child loves daddy, no matter how abusive is we still love the abuser? Kids just want to be loved.
I salute you, get free and stay free. You deserve peace of mind.
Keep in touch.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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I have to say this week is going to be hard I have been with him for 6 years and this year he moved out I told him I needed space and I couldn’t be in a relationship anymore so now thing is he wants to come back to the house and I cant be in the same house as him so I am looking for accommodation and it is rather scary for me and at the same time I’m looking forward to it .
But I would rather be out of the house than be scarred in my home.
Thing is our kid he loves his daddy too much and he would want a place closer to him so now I am getting a place that is closer but I don’t know if that will be good for me.
But I am willing to try it.
I still say it is not worth it to stay coz one gets to a point where they cant take it anymore and they do whats best for them.
I salute all the women who are over it and to us who are getting out of it lets look at what we want and not be weak.
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Hi Anna,
Thank you for sharing this link.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Hi Donna,
So sorry so long for a response. I love you site, I actually checked it out back when you posted. I really love what you are doing. Keep up all the great work. I encourage others to visit Donna’s site.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Dear Melissa,
Thank you so much for posting. I so agree with what you wrote. Woman need someone to support them in the aftermath. Many repeat the same mistakes and pick the same partners over and over. When we have someone to reach out to we are better able to stand on our own.
I know that it seems it will never go away, but it doesn’t go away, it becomes something that you grow from. Supporting others is a great way to heal, it helped me. For me, I had several friends that were there before but really showed up for me after. I had barely talked to them before my life fell apart but they were there for me totally after. They allowed me to cry and vent and never judged me. That with reading everything I could get my hands on and counseling, writing saved me and helped me to move on.
Thank you for offering this resource for us.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Dear Jenny,
Sorry, I normally respond much sooner but the amount of posts has kept me so busy. I am so happy to hear all that you are doing. I agree, everyone that can pass something on to encourage others needs to. This is how we stop abuse and help woman/men know that they are not alone and come out on the other side. I encourage readers to visit Jenny’s site
I love the current poem you have on the main site that looks like a greeting card, nice.
I look forward to sharing your resource. Keep up the great work and stay in touch.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Hi Rebecca
I also have recently started a blog on emotional abuse. It is both as therapy for me and solidarity for others i hope.
With support it is possible to overcome and move on from anything and most importantly to be your own best friend.
Thank you for your wonderful blog.
Evie
Fromblueskytogrey.blogspot.com
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Hi Rebecca
I also have recently started a blog about recovering from emotional abuse. I am hoping that it will be therapeutic for me and solidarity for others. I would love it to be a source of support for others. With support we can overcome and move on from anything and learn to be our own best friends.
Thank you for your wonderful blog.
Evie
Fromgreyskytoblue.blogspot.com
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Hello,
I am new at reaching out to about my abuse I recently started speaking about it and educating others, I was physically abused but mostly it was mental and what you said is true I stayed because leaving was more freighting, I have a 2year old at the time newborn and the thought of her going to him without me was scary. The day I left I knew that if I stayed I would end up dying one way or another…today almost a year later I’m so happy although I have to deal with him and he still tries to manipulate and abuse me I’m going to court so I don’t even have to deal with that. I have moments when his control still scares me but I remember he has no power, I do. I am going to change my situation and educate women especially teens and young adults because until I left I had no idea that I was being abused….I thought we just had a bad relationship…He broke me as a human and a woman and I had to start all over again without anyone knowing because it was all hidden…thank you for letting me share xoxo Saba
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Dear Donna,
I had already read much on your blog but was unable to comment for some reason. I would love to ask that others visit your site too at elfladyschronicles.blogspot.com I encourage readers to visit Elf Lady, she has recently written an article about art for therapy, very interesting.
I will check out the site more and write a post when I can.
Supporting each other is the only way to move forward in life. Keep in touch. Hope to talk someday in the future. Thank you for all that you do to help others.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Dear Debbie,
Thanks for all of your posts. I encourage others in your area that are in a good place to speak out to join you. It takes all of us to make a difference in the area of domestic violence. Thank you for doing so much. My normal email is still down but you can continue to post here, others can reach your site to join.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Hi Rebecca,
I am starting a support group for abuse victims. It will be called SAN (Stop Abuse Now) and I was wondering if some of your readers would like to join up. I am in California but if they would still like to join we can e-mail each other or talk on the phone. Also, I am going to be on a TV show in California and am going to discuss abuse. If anyone would like to appear and they live in the Riverside Area of California please let me know.
Here is one of my poems that will be in my book.
I FEEL TRAPPED
I feel trapped,
Like a lion in a cage,
I feel like there is no hope,
And I have a lot of rage.
If only there was a way out,
But I really have no clue,
I know I’m not the only one,
Are you feeling trapped too?
Feeling trapped! We all feel that way. We’re afraid to leave. We need to say, is this what I want? Am I happy? If the answer is no, then we need to make a change and get out of our cage.
Debbie
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Hi, Rebecca. I hope you’ll considering add a link to my blog on your page.
elfladyschronicles.blogspot.com
Thanks so much,
Donna
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Dear Lynette,
Thanks for posting and sharing. I checked out the blog and appreciate the resource for everyone here. Moving on is the hardest part, especially when you still have to see the person. The best thing is to live the best life you can for you. You and your children come first. You have no idea how to heal…. one day, one minute at a time. Go to counseling if you can, find support in friends, blogging, reading and writing. I found my way with self help books, tapes and writing. This blog helped me to heal which is why many start them. Google what ever you are struggling with, there sill be a resource out there. Setting goals sounds silly but it is what helped me. I decided what I would no longer tolerate in my life and started to move on with each one. Search toleration’s here and you will find a post.
The good news, you get to decide what records you play in your head. If you are dwelling on the past, you will get the past and be and stay depressed. If you focus in your mind what you want your life to be, you will be renewed. My favorite guy is Tony Robbins. You have the internet, go to google and search Tony Robbins or just motivational speeches, find a speaker that feels they are speaking just to you.
I had a river-dance tape that I would play as soon as I felt myself getting depressed, snapped me right out. Search Aftermath of abuseon my site to give you some suggestions.
Keep in touch, be well, we are all in your corner to succeed but in the end, it is up to what you think about.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Rebecca,
Here’s the link to the sermon series on domestic abuse by Jeff Crippen on SermonAudio:
http://www.sermonaudio.com/search.asp?seriesOnly=true&currSection=sermonstopic&SourceID=crc&keyworddesc=Domestic+Violence+and+Abuse&keyword=Domestic+Violence+and+Abuse
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A Cry For Justice AWAKENING THE EVANGELICAL CHURCH TO DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN ITS MIDST @ http://cryingoutforjustice.wordpress.com/
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PTSD resource. Thank you for posting this resource, it will help many.
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Dear Anna,
Thank you for all that you have provided here. You are doing amazing work and will help so many. Keep me posted for sure, I will spread the work you are doing. Let me check out your work at your blog a bit more to see if I can post it off of the main page, like to read some stuff for but others will find it through this post. Interested in the SermonAudio, how do I get to that.
Keep in touch for sure.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Dear Anna,
Thank you so much for all that you shared, some great resources. I went to some and plan to visit the rest, lots of great resources. I thank you and will post them as separate links off the main page once I have reviewed the content more.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
Keep in touch, you are doing so much, impressed.
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Hi Debbie,
I found out that my email and other sites are down. Some buy out that has now put my stuff in hold. My web guru is moving stuff to get my emails back up, but until then you can post here and I will do my best to respond. I get lots of comments and try to respond as soon as possible.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Dear Debbie,
I agree, when I started this blog so long ago I had no idea the resource it would soon become for others. Poetry is the best way to reach others and help them understand.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Hi Rebecca,
I just came across your blog, and will be reading through it in the days to come. I need help healing and moving on. We separated in August 2010, but have two kids together so I see him and interact with him often. It is better now, but major depression has kicked back in, and I can’t seem to move forward. I also am just starting to realize how deep this goes. I have no idea how I will heal.
One blog I really like is Getting Past Your Past at http://www.gettingpastyourbreakup.com/gettingpastyourpast/
The writer herself is an abuse survivor, and has much wisdom (I think) to offer.
Best,
Lynette
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Dear Donna,
Loved your blog. I am a big Simple Abundance fan too, I reference her writings often. I am always happy to share a new resource for woman. Keep up what you are doing, I started this over 8 years ago, the reach has been tremendous and helped many, you will too. Keep in touch and let me know if I can ever assist you.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Hi, Rebecca! I have recently started a blog myself on surviving domestic violence. I’m blogging as therapy for myself and with the hopes I can help other women going through domestic abuse and divorce.
My blog is elfladyschronicles.blogspot.com
I’m also on facebook which you can access through my blog. I would love for you to check it out and share with others.
Take care,
Donna
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Hi Rebecca,
I am writing a poetry book about abuse. It will consist of 50 poems that I hope will inspire others. As a victim of abuse, I know what others are going through. I think the book will be very helpful to others. Please let me know what you think.
Debbie
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Hi Rebecca,
I am trying to send you an e-mail but I am having trouble.
Debbie
crafterdeb53@yahoo.com
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Thanks Rebecca,
Would love to share some resources, (mine and others).
Additional resources recommended on each site.
assessment: http://www.mosaicmethod.com
prevention: http://www.relationshipredflags.com
prevention: http://www.abuseinmarriage.com
restoration: http://www.comingbackbetter.com
therapy: http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com
education: http://www.hare.org
education: http://www.psychopathyawareness.wordpress.com
All the best,
Anna
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Good morning,
Not sure if you will be interested but I maintain a blog on domestic abuse. It can be found at http://psalms40vs2.wordpress.com/
The name of it is At the end of myself…at the feet of Jesus.
It deals with various aspects of domestic abuse as well as offering resources for the Christian who is abused by her non-Christian husband (or one masquerading as a Christian).
I am a blogger who has personally dealt with what I write and post about. Additionally, I am the co-author (along with Jeff Crippen, a pastor who has a 21 sermon series on domestic abuse posted on SermonAudio) of an upcoming book (called A Cry for Justice) on domestic violence and the churches response to it and how that can be improved.
Thank you.
Anna Wood
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This is a great site for PTSD sufferers. https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/portal/
It is a forum and although it is not strictly for DV many people on there have developed PTSD as a result of domestic abuse. I have found some very insightful information and understanding people on there.
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Hi Rebecca,
I think what you are doing here is really wonderful. I am a survivor of domestic abuse and have a blog where I have been documenting my journey of rediscovering myself here on WordPress. (www.wordpress.runningthriver.com) I have several websites and resources for victims of abuse listed on one of my pages. I think it is so important for those of us who have survived and moved beyond abuse to support each other. Thank you for all your effort.
Warm Regards,
Jenny
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There is a site called DailyStrength that was somewhat helpful. Most of all though God is the biggest help, and I have found that reading books by Christian authors has helped me the most. I read books such as “Women who love too much” but because that was a book that dealt with the past, it didn’t help me fight through ptsd as much as spiritually based christian books. It has been 2.5 years since I got away from my abuser, and I am still very much scarred but anticipate that this year is going to be better than the last. If an abused woman can find just two really good friends to support them through the pain on a continual basis, well, that is one of the keys needed to emotional healing. I think many women go back because of a lack of support, so essentially they get trapped with nobody providing a way out. Support is crucial. Books and blogs wouldn’t have gotten me through this, but a human voice to talk with whenever my world feels like it’s caving in has been the biggest help.
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Dear Debbie,
I would be happy to contact you but prefer we initially post here. The comment is private unless I approve and post it for others, so if needed, I will not post it. I have a hard time keeping track of emails as I have others sites too, so please start the conversation here, I get tons of spam too and this is the first step to preventing it. Lets chat here and then go from there.
I hope you understand.
Love & Peace,
rebecca
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Hi Rebecca,
Can you contact me regarding a question I have. I would appreciate it.
Happy New Year!
Debbie
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