It is 8 days into the New Year, normally during the week between Christmas and the New Year all of my major goals for the following year are written in Stone, meaning they have been written in my goal journal and entered into a Power Point that I update yearly and as my goals change. Yes, I have a PowerPoint for my goals, even though I am not an A type personality I find that if something isn’t visual, I will forget to look at it and with goals, we all know we must look at them often. Finding a way that will keep you focused on your goals is important so find something that works for you. I can remember many years back putting the top goals on yellow post it notes and placing them on the mirror in the bathroom to ensure that I would not forget them.
I started writing down my goals down over 15 years ago, thanks to my younger sister who knew exactly what I needed to move on after my husband had been removed from my home. I was suddenly free from a man that I begged God to free me from for many years and know I sat alone with my four year old son and I was clueless on what to do next.
Back to the goals, I had never really heard about goals and didn’t know where to begin until my sister gave me an Anthony Robbins 30 day program to get my life back on track. I honestly listened to each cassette tape and wrote the exercises in a notebook daily. Some days I would listen to 2 tapes as I could feel the change in my mind. The powerful realization that I could control what I thought about was like discovering the reason for my life. It had never occurred to me that I could somehow control what I thought about and focused on.
Like many of you I had lived a life of daily, sometimes hourly survival that I never had the time to sit and reflect on what I wanted my life to someday be, I just knew what I didn’t want it to be. Setting long term goals was the furthest thing from my mind. I was happy when the first thing that I was asked to do was to write down a list of what I would no longer tolerate, so that is where I would like you to begin today if you have never set any goals.
Take out a sheet of paper or open your computer and write the things that you will no longer tolerate from this day going forward, write until you have completely emptied out your head. Way back when I first started I wrote things like, no more anxiety attacks, never letting my husband back into my life, no longer being afraid to sleep in my bed. Since I was not yet ready to focus on a long term goal, deciding what I would no longer tolerate was something that I felt I was able to control. This is like baby steps for taking back control of your life.
Next, go through the sheet of toleration’s and pick the top 3 that must happen in order for your life to move forward. Save the others for another time, when you have removed the first three. Then write out the top 3 toleration’s on the top of a page. Underneath each one write why you will no longer tolerate this item. Then write what your life will be like if this item was no longer in your life. Finally, write what you will do to remove this toleration from your life.
For example, I knew that I needed to stop having anxiety attacks as I brought most of them on myself. I would continue to play the same record repeatedly in my head until I was unable to function. By removing this from my life I would be able to take control of my life better. I made a plan that I would allow my self tot he count of 5 to dwell on something that upset me, then I had to stop thinking about it. I know that sounds silly, but after a few weeks at this it seemed to work, not always but most times I succeeded on changing the record in my head.
So, please share with others here what 3 top toleration’s you will remove from your life starting today. For me, in the year 2012, my toleration’s are: will no longer go 24 hours without some form of writing. I will no longer tolerate a cluttered house. I will no longer tolerate bitching over things that shouldn’t really matter (this one is totally on me.) I am sure you can imagine the reasons that I want to remove these things and what my life will gain by doing so.
Knowing that it is a struggle for everyone, no matter what stage of life you are at needs help in creating what they want in life can help you to focus on your needs. Decide today, will you tolerate and waste another day of your life by allowing things you don’t want to continue or will you remove that toleration from your life today?
Please share your toleration list to inspire others. Later this week, to help keep me committed to my writing toleration and goals, I will share how to set additional goals and share a 21 day challenge that I would like for everyone to join me in.
Love & Peace,