I came across this video about the top 10 signs of emotional abuse, I could type them out for you here, but take the time to watch the video, if more than 1 applies to your relationship, think twice. Share this with someone you think is being emotionally abused.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
Hi Deb,
Great to hear the good news, can’t wait to read and recommend your book here. If you mean an emailed copy send it to rebecca@the-laststraw.com. If you mean physically address please email me directly as I do not want to post it here.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Hi Rebecca,
I finished my book and I would love to send you a copy because you have done so much for abuse victims. Please let me know where I can send it to you.
Thanks,
Debbie
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Hi Debbie,
Just responded to a few of your other posts. Let me know if we can email directly, we can talk that way. Like the name. I love what you are doing.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Dear Jules,
If you read this email again and again you will find your own answers. A person doesn’t have to physically hurt you to be abusive. Granted the police may not drag him away for how he treats you other than the physical abuse, but anything that makes you feel unworthy is abusive to you. You clearly need to leave, if not, what is you limit? You are with someone that has told you that he has been abusive and fears being abusive to you. Think about it, he has been married 5 times. You cannot fix this man, you can only change your life. In someways from what you shared, he too fears being abusive. From what he grew up in he is the same as if you had grown up in abuse and never dealt with it. It is up to him to deal with it. If this is not something he wants to do, you need to move on with your life.
You need to wake up and feel good everyday, not all days are perfect but this is not a happy life for anyone. Don’t expect anything from him, take the time to decide how you can leave and live on your own. You may still love him, that is normal, but you must love yourself more.
Keep in touch.
Love & Peace,
Rebeca
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Hi Rebecca, I have been married since 09, my husband displays almost none of the warning signs. Almost extreme opposite. Not a jealous bone in his body, really. Never yells only talks of his 3 interests. None are me. Has become asexual or only pleases self at work. 5 x in one year. I was wearing lingerie when he came home from work and he made no comment as if I was wearing sweats. He refuses to discuss any of my concerns for fear of argument 3 years of ignored emails and letters I typed trying to resolve or remedy this distance between us. He treats me like an appliance. Once took me to the ER and said take a cab home, we live 10 miles out in the country. He refuses to do date night and hasn’t shown any attraction to me in years. He did witness abuse as a boy onto his mother and his animals by an alcoholic step dad, and when angry in the garage throws shuff. Well he went bazerk on an old BBQ . One day while trying to encourage emotion from him he asked me “did you see the BBQ” after he admit he was afraid he would go to prison if he showed his emotions. He mentioned he’d thrown his first wife through a wall, but said she was a violent alcoholic . I’m his 5th wife,. My last relationship was with a sociopath, rapist,. Single for over a year before getting with my husband. Gun shy? Oh yeah I tried hard to stay focused on keeping this relationship healthy. I did. Now 4 yrs in no single issue addressed I’m beside my self with anger. As if I am a stupid bitch who’s feelings don’t count, but he’d never say that. He acts surprised I’m angry, surprised I want to leave. He admits to being a “robot”, that’s it. Well Few weeks ago he took something of mine he decided he wanted a thumb drive and left it at work, I was pissed I needed the files he came in we yelled and he man grabbed my throat. After a few seconds and pushing me backwards he let go, backed up and stated ” see you wanted it” the emotion, yeah after 4 yrs I’m guilty. But choking me, no. He never apologized, he left for Hawaii for 15 days instead. Booking it that night. Yea he’s visiting family but all the more reason I should’ve been invited. Ive no place to go, I try to pack my things but cannot focus. Why is it he is so different from the typical abuser? He never says it but I’ve never felt like such a undesirable worthless bitch in my whole life. He’s a master of passive aggression, the choking and Hawaii for a sorry is enough, but my head and everyone else says just get on yr feet first. I just can’t stay and not be at least treated like a human.
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Dear Sam,
Thank you for your words. Sorry for what you have been through but your sharing helps others. I agree, the mental torture and fear were worse than anything else I ever endured. The pain and trauma last longer. Any support you can offer to others is needed.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Hi Buckwheatsrisk,
Thank you for posting. I feel that I went through what I did so support others.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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Hello Wallace,
Thank you, the photo was very moving. I support you in all that you do. I encourage others to view the photo to.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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I have posted a photo of a memorial for battered women on my site and included a link to your site.
Please feel free to share this link below with anyone you wish and if you would like to use the photo on your site, please let me know and I will provide you with a free copy (without the watermark). I only ask that wherever you use the photo, if you can provide a link back to it using the link below.
http://yourdesign2.deviantart.com/art/Memorial-for-Battered-women-301259293
Thank you,
Artie Wallace
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i just realized i’m following your blog already lol…love it
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Hello and thank you so much for dropping by and joining. I really appreciate it. Now it is time for me to check out your blog! 😉
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Hi Buckwheatsrisk,
Thanks for the shout outs, I was very flattered. I checked out your blog and joined. I don’t join too many but liked what you are doing. I encourage others to check out this blog. Keep in touch and all the best to you.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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I have listed your blog on my site in regards to the Versatile Blogger award, I hope I’ve done it correctly…I’m just learning about this…love your blog!
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Dear Sam,
I agree. But if this does happen to you, allow your self to let go of the guilt and heal. We must watch what we get comfortable with for then we seem to let other things slide. Be safe and be strong.
Love & Peace,
Rebecca
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I too have a blog about abuse and just the other day posted on emotional abuse. Thank you for being brave enough to remove abuse from the shadows.
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Thank you so much for the help.
Emotional abuse is the precursor to abuse & torture.
Trust that no amount of money, fame, anything that you seem to have is not worth what will follow. The emotional abuse clears the way to verbal and physical abuse. What I endured was beyond what could be described abuse. Torture more accurately conveys the spirit of his intent.
Run while you can, escape before your will is broken and your body is able to leave. I want you to know the love you have is an illusion. The friendship with this man is fake. All he says is calculated.
Please, get out, but if you don’t other survivors will be there for you.
Be kind to yourself.
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Hi Rebecca,
l love what you write. You are truly a wonderful woman that gives strength to others who really need it.
I am writing a poetry book about abuse that I hope all of your readers and yourself will enjoy. Also, I would like to start a group for women that are experiencing abuse. I am calling it SAN or Stop Abuse Now. Please let me know what you think of it.
Debbie
I really would like to talk with you……
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Hi There,
CONGRATULATIONS to Everyone Who’s Survived as it takes Great Strength of Mind & Character, as it’s hard to Realise that You were dating a 3-6 Year old hate-fuelled, Mentally-handicapped pathological liar
Who, like any spoiled-brat, Can’t be Expected to take Adult’s Feelings into Consideration before moving onto Their next Toy
The uninitiated in Society haven’t a clue about what would-be victims of such Emotional-criminals try to put Us through
If You’re Still Producing They’re losing the game ONLY They are Playing, so Congratulations on Being A Winner !!!!
To cut a Loooong story short, I’ve Studied Sociology & Psychopathology in Person for Years & as-with All My Thinking I formed All-My-Own Theories without Studying texts
After meeting a Malignant Sociopath, ie A Megalomaniacal Psychopath, (AKA a Malignant Narcissistic Psychopath) I Found Myself Unifying All My Previous Theories, when I came face to face with a Female serial-killer …. LUCKY ME !!!!
She kills through relentless & ruthless attempts at ambient-abuse, abuse by proxy, emotional-black-mail, death-threats etc & as I was to Discover, (AFTER Exposing Her & Her Cronies,) by perverting the course of Justice
I’d Followed The Teachings of Martin Luther King, Mother Teresa & Gandhi & I ASSURE You I Tried Everything, from a Safe Distance, to get through to Her
However, She’s a 44 Year old with the Emotional age of a 3 Year old & the alloplastic-defences to go with it
She’s addicted to Her-Own Neuro-Chemistry & Adrenaline rushes & is Psychotic
ie Her lies allow Her to program Her bitter Mind for the kill (ie rush)
Her Brain doesn’t Eat Sugar across the Entire Front of Her Brain, due to a dysfunctional uncinate fasciculus, so She doesn’t Actually Exist in Reality
She Lead Me to Believe that 6 Men have committed suicide because of Her causing Them P.T.S.D. & for Those Who won’t Her Sister has then shot several of Them …. LUCKY ME !!!!
At a Formative Age, the elder of the 2 smashed the Younger 1′s Forehead off the floor repeatedly until She Said She Genuinely Thought She was going to die …. ie The Final ingredient to Make a psychotic serial killer …. (She has the Exact same Physical Construct of Brain as the mass-murderers She admires)
I Saw-Through Her & Stood-Up to Her & Genuinely Cared about Her, as I Uber-Empathically harrowingly Saw in Her what She Would have been had She not been born with what She called a broken brain & had She not suffered on-top of That
However, She Informed Me that Her EVERY Action was A Deliberately Selfish & ENORMOUSLY premeditated Choice !!!!
I Knew It was The LAST time I’d EVER Do So :- So From My Safe-Distance, I MADE Positive Progress with Her Thinking, as regards Her negative Life-Choices
Yet, after Months of Reaching-Out to Her & Her’s, I Had to put the Plight of Her next would-be victim First
4 Months later, when I’d tried Everything to Reform Her & Said Goodbye Lovingly, for the UMPTEENTH time, etc, I then Realised by simply Walking away I was DOOMING Someone to a fate worse than death
She THEN had Me arrested & I’ve to appear in Court for the TERRIBLE CRIME of Typing The TRUTH on Facebook (ie Slander & breach of Confidence) which She’d Doctored from a Post I’d placed on My old Facebook profile from 4 Months Earlier
Whereas, A Month Earlier when I’d had-enough & Called the Police & was HONEST :- Being Male I was Told by a Female police officer & I Quote, We’ll wait until She kills Someone ‘Then’ We’ll arrest Her :-
Here’s the off-shore expose’ which I BRAVELY Predicted could get Me arrested, 2 Days before I found Myself locked in a prison cell in Glasgow, in the Middle of the Night, whilst the Malignant Sociopath (& co) cackled in the distance, delighting in having perverted the justice system to continue trying to cause Me P.T.S.D. in the vain hope I’ll be the 7th Man to commit suicide because of Them
http://www.176.56.228.41/vaultofguilt.html
Kind Regards,
Erol
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