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I encourage you to post related Quotes and I will list them all here. Please leave the name of the author, as a writer I don’t like to post without giving credit. Readers are often searching for quotes on Domestic Violence and Support. I hope that these may inspire our day or make you think; abuse is never your fault and should not be tolerated by anyone.
“Happiness doesn’t depend on any external conditions, it is governed by our mental attitude.” For that means that no matter how unhappy your marriage is, you can be happy as an individual – Dale Carnegie
The following was recently by Daniel:
“PEOPLE WHO HAVE EITHER BEEN TREATED BADLY OR ABUSED AS A CHILD MAY OR MAY NOT END UP BEING THE ABUSER WHEN THEY GET OLDER,
OTHERS THAT SUFFER FROM THE ABUSE MIGHT SUFFER ANXIETY OR MAY NOT BE ABLE TO LIVE THERE NORMAL LIVES AGAIN.”
– DANIEL ARMSTRONG
If you wish to have what you want in life you must Focus on the Dream, if you focus on the pain and fear you will only want to scream! by Rebecca J. Burns www.the-laststraw.com
Long term domestic violence: Being abused in this manner is like being kidnapped and tortured for ransom but you will never have enough to pay off the kidnapper. by Rebecca J. Burns … www.the-laststraw.com
The following quote was revised to add men too after a reader commented it was biased towards men. I know that men are abused by women and write about it on this blog often and never meant to exclude them in this quote.
When I am asked why a man/woman doesn’t leave abuser I say: They stay because the fear of leaving is greater than the fear of staying. They will leave when the fear of staying is greater than the fear of leaving. Rebecca J. Burns www.the-laststraw.com
Several blog readers posted this recently and I wanted to share it. If you know the author let me know to give due credit: While you SCREAM at your woman, there’s a man wishing he could whisper softly in her ear… While you HUMILIATE,OFFEND and INSULT her, there’s a man flirting with her and reminding her how wonderful she is. While you HURT your woman, there’s a man wishing he could make love to her. While you make your women CRY there’s a man stealing smiles from her…
I have heard this quote several times from Dr. Phil and others, not sure who it is originally from but: You show others how to treat you. (This is so important and true, for me when I stayed after my husband called me awful names I showed him it was okay. Then when he hit me and I stayed, again, I showed him it was all right. When I finally told the police he tried to kill me and I was able to have him physically removed, I showed him how to treat me and that it was no longer allowed.)
Posted from Anonymous reader: It’s hard to look for the light when your lost in darkness.”
The following was posted under comments from reader: To be a survivor–first you must bleed. You bleed all that was inside of you: the pain, the memories, the fear, the wounds fusing together, the ties to what was in, all its forms. You bleed not once but several times.. And when you are empty, you either fade into a shadow or find the strength, and courage to live. When you stand up again, you are for a time, hollow–empty, like a bottle of beer lying on the street, cracked and reeking of its bitter contents. Then you fill yourself up with the new, your recreate yourself–you reform. You don’t have the same heart or mind. The way you see the world is forever changed. Written by Lynn Mari (The Last Straw – comment)
“If you can’t be thankful for what you have, be thankful for what you have—escaped,” Menard’s Catalog (beneath the contractor compressor)
The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself. by Mark Caine – author
Real confidence comes from knowing and accepting yourself- your strengths and your limitations –in contrast to depending on affirmation from others. Judith Bardwick- the Plateauing Trap 8, 1988
Courage is rightly esteemed the first of human qualities because, as has been said, it is the quality which guarantees all others. Winston Churchill
“Things don’t go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up. They happen to break you down and build you up so you can be all that you were intended to be.” Charles Jones.
“Domestic violence causes far more pain than the visible marks of bruises and scars. It is devastating to be abused by someone that you love and think loves you in return. It is estimated that approximately 3 million incidents of domestic violence are reported each year in the United States.”
— Dianne Feinstein
“Domestic violence does not only happen to adults. Forty percent of girls age 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend, and approximately one in five female high school students reports being physically and/or sexually abused by a dating partner.”
— Dianne Feinstein
“If the numbers we see in domestic violence were applied to terrorism or gang violence, the entire country would be up in arms, and it would be the lead story on the news every night.”
— Rep. Mark Green
Every woman who thinks she is the only victim of violence has to know that there are many more.
— Salma Hayek
There is a subconscious way of taking violence as a way of expression, as a normality, and it has a lot of effects in the youth in the way they absorb education and what they hope to get out of life.
— Salma Hayek
“One in three women may suffer from abuse and violence in her lifetime. This is an appalling human rights violation, yet it remains one of the invisible and under-recognized pandemics of our time.” Violence against women is an appalling human rights violation. But it is not inevitable. We can put a stop to this.”
— Nicole Kidman
Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime.”
— Herbert Ward
That’s all nonviolence is – organized love.
— Joan Baez
I would say that I’m a nonviolent soldier. In place of weapons of violence, you have to use your mind, your heart, your sense of humor, every faculty available to you…because no one has the right to take the life of another human being.
— Joan Baez
The world censures those who take up arms to defend their causes and calls on them to use nonviolent means in voicing their grievances. But when a people chooses the nonviolent path, it is all too often the case that hardly anyone pays attention. It is tragic that people have to suffer and die and the television cameras have to deliver the pictures to people’s homes every day before the world at large admits there is a problem.
— Bishop Carlos Belo
Non-violence can truly flourish when the world is free of poverty, hunger, discrimination, exclusion, intolerance and hatred – when women and men can realize their highest potential and live a secure and fulfilling life. Until then, each and every one of us would have to contribute – collectively and individually – to build peace through non-violence.
— Anwarul Chowdhury
Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were.
— Cherie Carter-Scott
The price of hating other human beings is loving oneself less.
— Elderidge Cleaver
We plant seeds that will flower as results in our lives, so best to remove the weeds of anger, avarice, envy and doubt, that peace and abundance may manifest for all.
— Dorothy Day
For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
Hope is the strongest driving force for a people. Hope which brings about change, which produces new realities, is what opens man’s road to freedom. Once hope has taken hold, courage must unite with wisdom. That is the only way of avoiding violence, the only way of maintaining the calm one needs to respond peacefully to offenses.
— Oscar Arias Sanchez
None who have always been free can understand the terrible fascinating power of the hope of freedom to those who are not free.
— Pearl S. Buck
We are asking people to understand that slavery still exists today; in fact, according to a recent New York Times article, if you count the number of women and children in bonded labor, domestic slavery or sexual slavery today, there are more slaves in the world than at any other time in history.”
— Charlotte Bunch
Everyone has a right to peaceful coexistence, the basic personal freedoms, the alleviation of suffering, and the opportunity to lead a productive life…”
— Jimmy Carter
“How many years can some people exist
before they’re allowed to be free…”
— Bob Dylan
————– A reader posted the following:
Thanks for this resource I did a search for Domestic Violence Quotes to help me today express myself with words I could not articulate myself
Additional Quotes I’ve found solace in:
Fairy tales do not tell children the dragons exist. Children already know that dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children the dragons can be killed. -G. K. Chesterton
“What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world remains and is immortal.” -Albert Pine
“Wild animals never kill for sport. Man is the only one to whom the torture and death of his fellow creatures is amusing in itself.” James Anthony Froud
“The question that sometimes drives me hazy: Am I, or the others crazy?” – Albert Einstein
“The healthy man does not torture others. Generally it is the tortured who turn into torturers.” – Carl Jung
“I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary. The evil it does is permanent.” -Mahatma Ghandi
“The house does not rest on the ground, but upon a woman.” -Mexican proverb
The fear of being alone with ourselves is … a feeling of embarrassment, bordering sometimes on terror at seeing a person at once so well known and so strange; we are afraid and run away. We thus miss the chance of listening to ourselves, and we continue to ignore our conscience. – Erich Fromm (1900-1980) Man for Himself: An inquiry into the Psychology of Ethics 4.2.B, 1947
Posted in poetry for women, poetry to heal, poetry to heal after abuse, poetry to heal from domestic violence, tagged domestic violence poetry, domestic violence quotes, poetry, poetry by Rebecca Burns, quotes about domestic violence., the forgiveness of me on July 12, 2006| 11 Comments »
I forgave a man who beat me
I never beat a man
I forgave a man that terrorized me
I never terrorized a man
I forgave a man who imprisoned me and robbed me of my soul
I forgave a man who took from me all I’d thought I owned
Long after I forgave this man
The only one that I thought was left to forgive
Was the woman sitting beneath my skin
The one that lost her soul
The woman who never beat a man
The woman who never terrorized another
The woman who never stole a thing
The woman who never robbed a man
She was much harder to forgive by far
Than the man who imprisoned her in his clutch
For it was she that had allowed somehow
This man to take so much
The day she finally forgave herself
That was true forgiveness she was told
That forgiveness of herself was worth more to her than Gold…
My gift to you …
As much as you don’t want to hear the F word, it is the first thing you must do to move on, Forgive the worst one of all … YOU!. I don’t mean to say you are the worst one but I felt that I was to blame for all of it. After all I stayed when he passed out drunk. I stayed after the first time he hit me. I stayed when he tried to kill me. But my life changed when I finally began to forgive myself. It doesn’t happen in a day, all better, I have forgiven myself. It has taken years but since the first glimmer of my own forgiveness I have begun to heal. Honestly, I forgave my abuser in my mind, not to his face, long before I even forgave myself.
P.S. I forgave myself long ago and have posted this poem to help another learn to forgive.
Domestic Abuse Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
Voice: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) 800-799-SAFE
Posted in poetry, poetry about abuser, poetry on domestic violence, poetry to heal, poetry to heal from domestic violence, tagged domestic violence poetry, domestic violence quotes, moving on after abuse, no more abuse, poetry about taking control of life, quotes on domestic violence, the last straw poetry on July 12, 2006| 11 Comments »
I have no more to be thankful for this year…Thank God
No more Beatings
No more Fear
No more Sadness
No more Tears
No more Dreams of Dying Today Anyway
No more Nightmares
No more Guilt
No more Battered Souls
No more Invisible Me
No more Forgotten Fate
No more Wasted Grace
No more Time to Waste
No more Fearing Yesterdays …
I am Thankful for all that I DO NOT have this year.
Have you written a poem to reflect your strength after abuse? Many readers of this blog are often looking for the words they can’t find to describe how they feel. Please share your words of wisdom with them.
Domestic Abuse Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)
Voice: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) 800-799-SAFE